The holidays are coming, with quite a few already behind us. We’re also fast approaching the conclusion of the semester, with midterms come and gone and final exams on the horizon. This is a unique combo, certain to leave students and staff alike feeling something other than festive.
On top of the added pressure of deadlines at Rowan, outside factors also add to our stress. The commercialization of the holidays puts a ton of pressure, and people are feeling it. If you work with the public, you get the brunt of the built-up pressure. Families also aren’t always joyful. Family dynamics are often difficult. Many have missing seats at the dinner table this year. It’s important to put some perspective on the reason behind the stress, and give ourselves and our loved ones extra grace.
If you’re anxious about all the upcoming work and overwhelmed by all that the season brings, you’re not alone. But you’re not out of control either. With a careful approach, you can have a healthy balance of fun and stress – if that’s even possible. The Whit Staff is working on a game plan, and we are encouraging you to do the same.
For starters, map out the end of the semester now. If you haven’t added your finals to your calendar yet, The Whit Staff encourages you to do it as soon as possible. Otherwise, you’ll be facing a lot of unknowns as parties, travel, and familial responsibilities enter the fray.
Next, what do you want to do this season, and what do you not? Thanksgiving, for example, is a holiday fraught with family tension despite its portrayal as a holiday all about togetherness and gratitude. If your Thanksgiving is known for being more like a warzone than a gratitudinous breaking of bread, we recommend you take extra time for yourself during that week.
When approaching the no-contact method with family, The Whit Staff encourages readers to be reasonable with themselves and their circumstances. Not everyone can afford to step back from friends or family, especially during the holidays. If that sounds like you, then you know what’s best for your situation.
There is also the stress of planning and purchasing gifts. This season, consider handmade, thoughtful presents over store-bought items. It’s the season of giving, even if lately it’s become the season of shopping. As prices continue to rise, it’s better to show your friends and family your appreciation through your time and effort rather than your money. Handmade gifts require a labor of love, but they take the stress of shopping away. When creating a handmade gift, there are lots of options from simple to complex. Even a heartfelt card can be a cherished present that won’t break the bank.
But lastly, remember to prioritize yourself, whatever that looks like. You do not need to be present at every function or give every person a gift. It’s okay to say “no.” Prioritize things that fill your cup, all year round, but especially at this time. It is hard to pour into others, which we do a lot of this time of year, if we are pouring from an empty cup. Fill yours first.
Still, this can be a very, very lonely season for some, especially those affected by seasonal affective disorder (SAD). If that’s you, self-care may look more like encouraging yourself to put yourself out there and spend time with others. They say it takes a village, but to have a village, you must be a villager. And what better time of the year to create one than now?
The Whit Staff wishes you happy, healthy holidays.
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